It doesn’t matter if you’re ‘just’ mom or dad to your children, a leader or minister of the gospel, or an executive, or employed in the secular world……EVERYONE HURTS… Sometime.
There is nothing as lonely as going through trials alone. Somehow, in the world of empowerment and independence and self-sufficiency, letting someone know that you are having a hard time, is often recognized as a sign of weakness.
Have you ever looked at someone and sensed that they are going through something and asked them about it? More often than not, what follows thereafter are excuses…..
“I’m just tired.”
“I’ve had a hard day at work.”
“You know how it is…. I am fine.”
Admitting that everything is not okay is perceived as a sign of weakness.
Matthew 26 records the account of The Last Supper. It’s the night that Jesus sat down to have supper with His nearest and dearest, His disciples. It is during this Supper that He states that from this intimate group, one of them would betray Him, and another would deny Him, not once but three times.
Matt 26:36-38 Then Jesus went with them to the olive grove called Gethsemane, and he said, "Sit here while I go over there to pray." He took Peter and Zebedee's two sons, James and John, and he became anguished and distressed. He told them, "My soul is crushed with grief to the point of death. Stay here and keep watch with me."
Jesus. The Son of God. ….He, Jesus, confessed "My soul is crushed with grief to the point of death.”! Jesus, who knew that if He just asked, His Father would send Him Angels or get Him through His trials. Jesus was not concerned that His disciples would think Him weak!
Jesus faced every trial and temptation that we have to endure. He identified that at some point in our life, the lowest point in our life, we needed to share our burden with someone we could trust. It did not mean the listener was going to solve the problem but it was reassuring to know that someone could share this burden and just be there.
There was and is no shame in saying that “I am not Okay.” and there is no shame in sharing your burden.
Simon and Garfunkel’s song ‘sound of silence’ came on TV the other day and the following line spoke volumes... ‘SILENCE LIKE A CANCER GROWS’.
When you hold on to all that you are going through, and have no one to talk to, it’s not the situation that destroys you but the holding on.
It’s the final straw that broke the camel’s back! You can only carry so much before you break. Find someone you have confidence in, to share your struggle with you and stand in agreement over your situation.
Trust that God will take care of you. God works in His own timetable but take courage in knowing that in His time, He will make all things beautiful.
Don’t let fear of what people think or shame, silence you! If it was okay for Jesus to share His burdens it’s okay for you to do the same.
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